@RichDecibels
vibes mechanic at https://t.co/XOLuIw8Z9O
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the coolest possible start to a rule book https://t.co/9ZkRrIHUSV
it's kind of a blackpill on humanity that there's such an enormous market for "a crap version of the thing" https://t.co/KqSoNROowY
I made a dumb joke and she laughed like this spilling all that beauty into the room like copper coins dropped from a pocket and for the thousandth time I thought let's never stop doing this https://t.co/fmVHjCZdTi
I've been scratching my head for a week after someone asked 'what became obvious for you after taking psychedelics?' I dunno man it seems self evident that the more primitive pre linguistic processes of consciousness make more immediate and honest contact with reality and have much higher bandwidth than any symbol system and this gap between trustworthy reality and untrustworthy language is one of the most important dialectics shaping the human experience like impressionistic ambiguous vibes rule everything around me from marriage to the economy to world peace like we keep looking for Letters we can put our faith in but all we have is Spirit
embarrassed bc it took me 37 years to figure out my parents are entirely based https://t.co/nJTgnzbfJS
America probably solves climate change the same way it won WWII: showing up inexplicably late, then finally retooling its entire industrial capacity for total annihilation and unleashing potentially apocalyptic tech in the process
I just need to get my shit together before I ask for help https://t.co/popIwDTZ7Q
if you, a girl, live in a house with a boy and you want him to tidy up more: don’t teach him how to build a boat, teach him a love of the sea. he lacks your aesthetic sensitivity, and you can patch that hole without risking condescension. train his pleasure receptors
my most woo belief: “body language” is a lossless + comprehensive communication medium, everyone in proximity knows just about everything about each other all the time spoken language is a reducing valve to protect each other from uncomfortable info and maintain harmony
serious question what are all you tech people doing for a job next year https://t.co/oc9Anu3m4x
allow me to indulge for a second about one beautiful word in the tv show The Bear: "heard" "heard" is used by kitchen workers to improve coordination. it's like "message received". reduces miscommunication. - "burger and fries for table 7" - "heard!" but in the show they exapt it, out of the kitchen and into their interpersonal relationships. I share something heavy and you say "heard" "heard." period. no ritualised performance of empathic listening. no defensiveness. no advice. just a decisive "heard" it's solid af
as a teenager you look at your parents world like, "you guys are idiots. the government is dumb. the economy is dumb. jobs are so dumb" as an adult you learn that teenage impulse was mostly true, but you just underestimated how hard it is to make any improvements on that system
@mechanical_monk when Nati & I do this it means "hi, welcome to a shared experience of the present moment, you're present, I'm present, and we're mutually aware of each other being present" it acknowledges that we just crossed a threshold into intimacy
seems like 80% of everyday creepy male behaviour mostly boils down to vibe blindness, making a pass at someone you're attracted to after drastically misreading (or not even attempting to read!) how she might be thinking or feeling in that moment. skill issue honestly
I drew this diagram to illustrate a lot of related insights about agency, hosting, community-building, collaborative leadership & social change come with me now, the thread is long and full of bangers… https://t.co/hX3lV9xylT
@OneEyedAlpaca I met a client once and immediately had the most intense crush of my life, like tripping high on drugs, ready to blow my life away on a whim, called my homie to ask for advice and it went something like this... that was the last time I had a relationship-threatening crush
if you take a bunch of those people and say “here is a space which is much more tolerant of divergent social behaviour, you are less likely to be punished for being yourself intuitively” they can rapidly discover things like “holy shit I can vibe” and “I am loved & loveable”
I will not be sad in this world https://t.co/bDPhCKSBEC
hypothetically speaking if your parents massively failed to meet your emotional needs growing up it would be a pretty smart strategy to transfer your family loyalty to a supernatural parent in the sky who never dies and always cares for you
my friend told me she has a crush on a guy so I said oh we have friends in common if you want I can ask around about his reputation but she said nah I don’t need to hear his exes tell stories about how they triggered the very worst in each other’s attachment styles I can figure it out for myself and I said damn that is the most mature dating take I have ever heard
there's an emotional profile I've seen numerous people navigate but never adequately named, the unbelievably painful hangover that comes after a particular kind of peak experience: 1. lonely dissociated nerd has no life satisfaction, no feelings, no great friends, not engaged at work, lives in a constant state of shutdown for self-protection 2. by some luck they wander into a festival, burn, vibecamp, retreat etc, have the feeling of "I have found my tribe" for the first time in their adult life. extremely high peak experience, re-enchanted with the world, feels that anything is possible 3. returning to everyday life, they soon realise they're incapable of creating the changes required to sustain those good feelings. now they're confronted with the same sorrow & loneliness they've dealt with for years but now WITHOUT the protective forcefield of dissociation 4. extremely bitter brutal agonising dark night of the soul 5.... if that doesn't kill them, then after months or years of trial and error they land on an upward spiral, gradually reorienting their life towards meaningful work, belonging, openness, care for self and others etc, eventually they mature into an exceptionally kind and caring community pillar
image an alien culture with a strict taboo on sincerity so if you wanted to signal intimacy you had to deliver a sick burn precisely calibrated to be painful enough to let your friend know you know them well but not so much to make them hate you wouldnt that be weird
I published my book! Now I just need to finish it... https://t.co/Hh83QNHd5w
here, have a mass produced microtargeted identity, here's 100,000 people with the exact same values, beliefs, triggers and psychological baggage as you. yummy yummy why don't you enjoy this cozy monocrop community why are you still feeling isolated??
whoever fixed the youtube comments section deserves a nobel peace prize https://t.co/3uyP3Xnsdn
if you're going to advocate for unguarded open-hearted intimate contact with the present moment please let me know you also understand the survival value of living with guards up, dissociated, tightly controlled by the grip of self discipline
the "heroic dose" is misnamed. sobriety is the heroic choice. visit the present moment without armor, unmediated, in direct contact with your desire & pain. writhe under the touch of the animal currents of aliveness. meet reality without a prophylactic.
if you're grappling with a problem, and you seem to get stuck when you're trying to deal with it on your own, and you only make progress when you have the right people around, instead of beating yourself up about this,, have you considered,,, you may be a mammal
just published a newsletter that's been 6 months in the making: a big hot list of web3 people & projects with real social impact potential if you're into coops, self-managing orgs, or mutual aid then I think it's time to pay attention to web3 https://t.co/lsqLOwBKDq
a recipe for changing yourself: (dont use this for brainwashing/cults ok) many of the traits you perceive to be "your personality" or "your limitations" are not "inside of you" they are your relation to specific social norms norms are enforced by shame shame is anticipation of social sanction appreciation is anti-shame medicine norms are context dependent social contexts are malleable we can make a social context where you can break the norm you usually strive to uphold, and instead of being shamed, you are appreciated precisely for that behaviour after just a couple of tries, if we invalidate your hypothesis that you will be punished if you break the norm, you become highly malleable
excited to announce a new breakthrough therapeutic modality called Come To My House. opening April 19 https://t.co/7lWo2HoAMn
I feel like many more people could benefit from developing awesome spreadsheet skills, but most people don't know what they're good for so I'm going to document some of the nice things I do in Google Sheets in case anyone wants to pick up some tips
groups have extraordinary capacity for coordination with entirely implicit norms, but as soon as you start adding explicit structure, there’s a mental bug that will activate in some people where they suddenly find ambiguity 100% intolerable and demand everything be 100% defined
I don't think there's a meaningful correlation between my quality of life and the health of the stock market. am I being naive? feels like nearly everyone freaking out about the economy is kinda faking it? like watching an in-joke that I'm not in on? what?
listen, this is not a call to retvrn. 1950s USA had stable social structures, but it was a fragile stability built on subjugation & marginalisation, belonging built on sameness we need to build new structures for belonging that are not predicated on conformity
something I haven't seen discussed much is how smacking kids affects their attachment style as adults like hi I'm your primary caregiver and I'm mostly attentive to your needs and also sometimes I use undisguised shock treatment to condition your behaviour oh and also all conceivable authorities agree this is good and normal
cycling thru Berlin today, beautiful day, I notice myself surreptitiously checking out the babes and I think, why am I being subtle? where did I learn I should pretend to not be admiring babes when babes are out in such numbers? so I switched my vibe, stopped hiding, allowed myself to be seen looking and within moments I found myself making contact with people, nothing major, just friendly eye contact and smiles, like hey dude I see you looking and it's fine, it's good, I like it. I felt like the street switched from private to public. like I switched from northern europe to southern europe norms in an instant and suddenly the social world opened up as much more friendly, much more inviting, much less private than I had been treating it. all this is to say I wonder how much loneliness and social frustration could be resolved just by changing how you look. I dunno, maybe I just like looking at babes 🤔
🏋🏾♀️🎺🌶🐠 Resources for Decentralised Organising 🐚🌈🍒👩🏽🔬 a mega list of handbooks and toolkits for groups working without top-down management from social movements to workplaces https://t.co/92f8MCpkgg open source for anyone to read, update, share
increasingly trippy instructions for a meditation on the self... Seeing Like a Superorganism On the surface, @micro_solid is a community-building framework, an engineer’s attempt to invent a cure for loneliness. But beneath the waterline, there's a deeper project. If I’m honest, I am trying to change how you think about your self. I want you to see your self as a superorganism. And I want you to see the superorganisms that you are part of. I want the perceived boundaries of your self to leak. I want you to see how your agency is not a tidy black box contained inside the envelope of your skin, but distributed in a network, intra-penetrating with other people. I want you to feel the incorporeal beings steering your choices, and I want you to learn that you can steer their choices too. It’s common knowledge that a person is made of organs, organs are made of tissues, tissues made of cells, cells made of molecules, right? The simple individualistic humanist frame treats the person as the seat of agency, the atomic unit of moral responsibility and choice-making. I want you to see the limits of this model. Agency exists at micro- and macro-scales, the “person” is just one step on the ladder. To my knowledge, nobody argues this better than developmental biologist Michael Levin. Levin’s “multi-scale competency architecture” describes the problem-solving competencies at each layer of the biological system, from cells to tissues to organs. Each layer is uniquely adapted to solving problems within its domain. Your brain is not a micromanaging boss directing the chemical interactions of each cell in your body; each layer is mostly self-managing and able to solve novel challenges. You are not born with a blueprint documenting all the paths of your circulatory system: your blood vessels have goals and creativity and they figure it out for themselves. Just as a we can see the distinct layers of “cell”, “tissue” and “organ” at the micro-scales, I want you to see the distinct layers at the macro-scale. I want you to see that a group of 5 people is a distinct superorganism with distinct competencies. A group of 150 people is another species of superorganism, it can do other things. You may be thinking to yourself, what the fuck are you talking about Rich? I can’t explain it, you have to see for yourself. Maybe I can give you some instructions to help you see like a superorganism. People-Watching Games Sit for a coffee. Notice the people walking across the plaza. Maybe there’s 100 people, but they’re clustered into 20 small groups. Imagine a physical envelope around each cluster (include their wheelchairs, dogs, kids etc). Watch the invisible springs holding the cluster together. Feel the surface tension of the bubble. Notice that each bubble maintains its own integrity and avoids crossing into the territory of every other cluster. They slide around each other like amoebae. Occasionally you get lucky and two bubbles combine, forming a bigger, slower, louder unit. Can you see it? Can you see the stretchy-springy-flexy macrobeings walking-riding-rolling through the square, each person a limb? Feeling the spirit of the group In a room with 20 people, how does the group change when you drink a strong coffee? Notice how a laugh propagates across the superorganism. Notice how each of its limbs trips on the same awkward piece of furniture in the hallway. How does it react to changes in music style and volume? What is the impact of different lighting levels? How does the group spirit change when you have a rough oval of 20 seats, or 5 clusters of 4? How does the group spirit react to empty space? to soft textures? to aromas? Cultivating scale-sensitivity Look for patterns: what is the biggest group that can hold a single conversation, with everyone engaged, and no formal structure, no facilitator, agenda, whiteboard? Is it bigger than 3? smaller than 10? How big is it? How does a festival of 3000 feel different from 30,000? Are the strangers equally anonymous at each scale? How big is your mental address book? How many individuals can you recognise? How many tribes? Questions for extra credit Once you know how to see a group as a singular macrobeing, you can notice groups of groups in the same way. Fractal insight generator go brrrrrrrr. How many groups of groups did you see in the plaza? What's a good name for the group-of-group-of-group-of-groups that contains all beings? Can you stretch the time domain? Can you learn to see a family as one coherent creature persisting over centuries, a single spirit installed temporarily in individuals? Can you see it?