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@mechanical_monk imo it means she's landed in the new interpersonal context (good work there) and a new context of course requires a new greeting or welcome to establish that it is recognized. she's dropped out of the old context, the vibes and people are different, you're meeting e/o anew
@mechanical_monk as for what to do with this: definitely kiss if she still wanted to talk when y'all just were, she wouldn't act like now is a new context diff from that one alternatively maybe she's saying hi to start a convo in which case, don't kiss good luck & remember to enjoy uncertainty
@mechanical_monk https://t.co/RDorSEwltI
@literal_bagel @mechanical_monk "oh, I'm newly here now, I'm newly aware of / alive with the fact that you're here, I was looking at you before but now that we've slowed down I can finally see you better and let myself take you in ——— hello, you; suddenly in this closeness I newly feel your presence; hi :-)"
@mechanical_monk more serious: it's like when you come into a restaurant / shop / kitchen, & the person working there is super busy, flying around, taking care of tasks, their head is occupied, so you wait for a bit. What do they say when they finally calm down, breathe, and look at you?
@mechanical_monk Actually, ignore the "restaurant/shop". the kitchen of somebody who loves you who is cooking a big meal is the closer analogy, because she's switching from a task-doer mode to an intimate connection mode https://t.co/qMchOWr1t4
@mechanical_monk when Nati & I do this it means "hi, welcome to a shared experience of the present moment, you're present, I'm present, and we're mutually aware of each other being present" it acknowledges that we just crossed a threshold into intimacy
@mechanical_monk I have investigated this extensively and as far as I can tell it's primarily {an invitation to | a recognition of} a deeper kind of intimacy which paradoxically is partially made of the recognition of each others' strangeness