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sometimes i cry when i think about poly, because i don’t know any other way to be, except to keep caring about people who have touched me with their soul, and sometimes other parts of them too https://t.co/L0BFUjw8XL
What I want dating to mean is: being in an already loving relationship with somebody, where I already care about them and look forward to seeing them, knowing it doesn’t come with the expectations or future co-planning that might come with a relationship.
@maybegray once said something about even if she was in an essentially monogamous relationship, it would still be with the ~spirit of poly underneath it i’ve remembered it to this day https://t.co/Jpg79TeIkW
it’s not so much seeing other people but rather: - dating yourself first - a cultivation of a relationship that exists outside the container of any relationship - a freedom underlying loyalty https://t.co/Q0SxaHkaBM
What is beautiful about dating myself is I still date others, but fundamentally, I am dating myself. I can very close with them, and still poly, because I am also dating myself. The multiple engines of attention and intimacy for myself run. https://t.co/NYbjFUAFRD
there is the form of poly (multiple relationships) then there is the essence of it people often get the two confused https://t.co/Qgue9DdZpE
today i opened instagram 👀 https://t.co/YEo65pay9G
