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Been exploring polyamory in a lot more depth recently Even just discussing this with my wife, one thing that's clear to me is that if it's going to be at all successful, it's more about INCREASING your commitment, even on a per-relationship basis https://t.co/TAzhLnafwa
The fear is that by having less than 100% of the time to spend with each other, we'll have to give up some of what we already have But I think that that doesn't have to be the case, we have to commit to honouring those commitments while adding more https://t.co/8kYRsOIW48
If your relationships are zero-sum, you have bigger problems A brilliant analogy was when you have two children (or cats), you don't love one of them more than the other, but you love them both as individuals Your heart has room for others in it https://t.co/YVuT7hQQCr
Everyone has to figure this out on their own because every person is unique in the own way I don't want some paint-by-numbers abstraction, I want YOU, in all your messy imperfection! https://t.co/p7nTlJJweJ
@KenBearIsland @joespurpleshirt Realistically it's always going to be some mix of both But if your tastes are causing you to categorize someone as being of a certain Type, then how would you feel about swapping them for someone else in that category? Are you attracted to a Person, or an Idea?
It's hard it's messy You're going to fuck up a lot and people will get hurt But maybe it's worth all of that, regardless https://t.co/vxjWdqqqYg
@CountJ0ecool > No couple has instructions for how they're supposed to behave day-to-day, no matter how many frameworks they have yess, thank you. No couple has instructions, even if they are monogamous. Throwing away yet one more map may not be the right choice and it may.