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This message from my mom "我就沒有要改變你" => "I'm not trying to change you"Been crying the last 30+ minutes as I've realized I've been enough and am loveablehttps://t.co/DMFZHI0bJ9 https://t.co/uvygVZo5X0
i've always felt like my mom wanted me to change, that i needed to be some way for her to love me, that her love was conditional. i'm realizing on some deep level i internalized that as "i'm not loveable. there's something wrong with me" https://t.co/MihjD90QLf
and from that place, i lashed out: "my mom sucks, shes this and that". projecting the judgments that were so hurtful for me. "well if i'm not good enough it's because she's not good enough" https://t.co/H049Vysuth
My mom gets extremely defensive. My whole life I had judgments like “she doesn’t listen, she can’t admit fault, she’s unreasonable, obstinate, can only see her own perspective”. Later, I floated the label “narcissistic”. I hated this about her, for how much pain it caused me
love is not this scarce thing that i need to desperately cling to. ive been surrounded, immersed in it the whole time, just too blind, defensive, hurt to see it. i am loveable. i am good enough. always have been 🌏👨🚀🔫👨🚀🌌
i've always had ideal parents https://t.co/3gTGl3GWEx
@easoncxz Yeah it only makes sense in the context of months of major, emotional, revealing conversations leading up to it https://t.co/Oru5OyBB1Q