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fuck fictional ideal parents, ive had ideal parents the whole fucking time i've just been too blind to see it https://t.co/auk0xkcjgX
IPF names 5 main characteristics of ideal parents:1. safety and protection2. attunement to behavior and emotion3. emotional soothing4. expressing delight in the being of the child5. encouraging the child’s own individual exploration
2. My mom does things for me as much as she is able to detect and understand. She buys things that she thinks I’ll need. Ok this one’s probably toughest for her but I can do this for myself. And she did it when I was a baby/toddler of course
5. My mom is happy that I’ve found things that I like. My mom is happy that I pursue what matters to me. My mom has shown her support by traveling with me for a month the way I like to, even though she didn’t think she would like it.
My mom courageously goes out on a limb to not only accept but try to embrace something I love (traveling, exploring, even biking). My mom goes out of her way to embrace people that I love (my ex, friends)
My mom is beautiful, expressive, funny, adorable, courageoushttps://t.co/eh1ABJTC7S
She loves me and cares about me https://t.co/hjm5l65Fmk
And I love her so much and I’m an idiot for taking 30 years to realize all of thisAnd she’s getting older and I’ve wasted so much time not sharing how much I love herI wish we could have done this in person together in Taiwan