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there’s this weird idea i had that i needed to sanitise all these feelings i was conscious of, and in retrospect, i see why, it’s like i lived in a glass house https://t.co/VoLSpIGuSw
if my parents picked up on a feeling, i don’t think i really knew how to say no to talking about it. the best way to hide things was to hide it from myself https://t.co/7wajy89ZoT
lmao, another example https://t.co/TXpSxm0U8n
what i’m learning is its possible to have boundaries between - my experience & my feelings - what i’m expressing and acting on i’m not a glass house. there’s a lot of layers between me and another person https://t.co/WjQGR8vH6F
An important piece of navigating your emotional inner world is learning to slow things down enough to differentiate the many things going on that we typically bundle into “being [angry]” - experiencing internally - reacting (internally or externally) - expressing - communicating
all i knew 100% intimacy and transparency (which ofc just means anything incompatible with connection goes into the shadow) or 0% https://t.co/vEFpcUW3Nr
what i’m learning is that 100% intimacy and transparency is actually never possible, and not desirable *audible phew* we are each the people that know ourselves best. all connection is sharing some degree of our experience, but never 100%
the other person didn’t necessarily sign up to be my dad or friend they said yes to flirting, or connecting a certain way they might be open to me talking about my feelings, and i can see, but i’d have to discern and check
there was a friend i hugged this weekend, and i felt like crying, and i did, and i told them what’s going on there was a crush i hugged this weekend, and i felt like crying, and i backed the fuck away it wasn’t the space or context that’s just discernment
@AskYatharth they totally can https://t.co/99GXKoH4ZG