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the point really is to ask a bunch of questions from a place of genuine curiosity to get the person to express the internal tangles theyâve got that are making them feel like shit because itâs possible to say âyo Iâm delightfully worthless and Iâm having a great time đâ
a phrase like âyou are worthyâ might seem like itâs meant to be reassuring, and it can be, but it can actually subtly perpetuate this endless paranoia thatâs grasping for moral worth. which isnt necessarily bad either. Itâs all quite silly, can you see đ
itâs not the label thatâs the issue but what the label represents to the person, and underneath the mouth-sound or glyph of ordered symbols is an emotional felt-sense. âIâm worthlessâ IME is often giftwrap packaging for âI feel despair, alienated, shunned, isolatedâ
now those are things that are much more addressable with direct intervention! but only once the person gets out of their head and lets go of their psychic grip on their imaginary scale. as long as theyâre focused on the wrapping, theyâll misdiagnose the problem, and struggle
And to a substantial degree, I think people sometimes deliberately use misdiagnoses as avoidance, as cope, because accurate diagnoses can be painful to face. But if itâs the truth, you can bear it, because you are already bearing it https://t.co/jZuQSJ7uFW
also even âI feel worthlessâ is often further giftwrapped in apathy, boredom, etc. a matryoshka of copes. (and copes are not intrinsically bad! they simply are) https://t.co/wbSm8Yj4Mh
i'm reflecting on how layered it is 1. there's some desire in ur heart 2. follow it, get burned. pain 3. create a barrier around the desire, lock it up 4. now feel cold, desolate 5. feel bad abt cold 6. beat self up for feeling bad 7. detach 8. ugh why am i so bored & listless
was searching for something unrelated and found this exchange where some kid was like âpls tell me I wonât always be an anxious dumbassâ and i was like âI hope youâll always be one!!â https://t.co/ygJxyBteli
Really though, I love talking to younger people. They have a way of asking you questions that I forget to ask myself. My friends are like, âyo, are you gonna have kids soon or nahâ (đ) while kids are like âVisa how do I find meaning and purpose in this cruel world?â â¤ď¸ https://t.co/oWlg0Cl47E
similar thread the powerful thing is acceptance https://t.co/3CcNgEVrSz