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the problem of imposter syndrome (under-estimating yourself) and Dunning-Krueger (over-estimating yourself) are both addressed by Talking To Other People so you can revise your self-estimates I think people donāt talk to other people enough, and arenāt really listening properly https://t.co/7tXjmmBDhe
@visakanv i've been thinking about this lately. when i first heard about the 'imposter syndrome' it just didn't make sense to mehttps://t.co/tjBaW4y02q
is āimposter syndromeā a psyop? iāve sure felt stupid, inadequate and disoriented in intellectually challenging environments, but iāve never thought of myself as āa fraudā or as ānot belongingā. what i did think is āboy is there much to learn!..ā what do yāall think?
listen to a dozen other people talk about their problems. really listen. itāll cure your imposter syndrome. people feel like imposters not because they donāt know themselves, but because they donāt know how to relate themselves to other people
1. ā¤ļø 2. the solution here is to find and talk to other indie freelancers! https://t.co/w8P7VAofFm
Iām not saying āask other people to estimate youā Iām saying, āask other people how they estimate themselvesā if you havenāt earned their trust they might not be entirely honest, and even if they trust you thereās always some signal loss in transmission, but itās still huge https://t.co/VBaLJK6dHf
I get DMs all the time from people who are struggling. I know billionaires who are unhappy, people who are smiling in all the Instagram shots whose marriages are collapsing, people who have been betrayed by cofounders they trustedā¦ there is a lot of pain and struggle everywhere
hereās a story from one Neil to another we can all help each other out by being honest with each other about our struggles https://t.co/cVIKFHw1gX
one good way to ābootstrapā this is to read! people throughout history have written copious amounts of deep, intimate, honest, heartbreaking confessionals. Montaigne, for eg, deeply moved Emerson and Nietzsche in turn https://t.co/tatqEo9BrE
he influenced Pascal, Emerson ("so sincerely it spoke to my thought and experience"), Nietzche ("That such a man wrote has truly augmented the joy of living on this earth"), Eric Hoffer. Some scholars suggest that Montaigne even influenced Shakespeare https://t.co/orYa0ph5ef
btw this is what art is *for*. what itās all about. literature, music, painting. about bridging loneliness between people. about staving off isolation. about sharing parts of ourselves with one another. conveying our interiority. seeing and really *feeling* that we are not alone https://t.co/bJeXO0scLK
Paulnack tells his students, you are not mere entertainers. You are therapists. Spiritual chiropractors, paramedics - realigning minds that are confused, hearts that are overwhelmed, souls that are weary. You are the catalyst of smiles and tears, at weddings and funerals.
tone is hard to convey via text but, with love, I wanna smack some of yall sometimes šā¤ļø wtf are yall doing arguing about bullshit. we are all going to die. can we be real with one another in the meantime? I know i know I am very dramatic and annoying but Iāve seen ppl HEAL
if you donāt have any old friends, here are 100+ good people in the replies you can make friends with https://t.co/r5FzPu2ziJ
welcome to visaās house party for mutuals, reply with cool/fun stuff about yourself and follow each other! Prompts: Whatcha working on? Whatcha been up to? Whatcha been reading? Whatās on your mind? Donāt be shy, put your best foot forward and make new friends https://t.co/cQBUX1yLSD
gentle self-assuredness, from a place of self-knowledge, sincerity. confidence without bluster. grounded, honest https://t.co/LlY6QGmNgu
3 logicians are in a bar bartender asks, do all of you want beer? A: I donāt know B: I donāt know C: yes, we do! ā Now think about this Yes itās funny ha ha good joke sure But notice how each person is FIXATED ON THEIR OWN EXPERIENCE solipsism https://t.co/2x49lcvPCk