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i could write a whole thread on just this thread https://t.co/7NtE9gVEml
bodies intuitively know that what i experience doesn't need to be made identical to what you experience in fact, it's not possible i am all the way over here, and you are there. i have these limbs, you have yours. how could we fully exchange positions?
it's because i have the right idea of me, i don't totally need you to have the right idea of me https://t.co/wkAWzhvDKl
i can accept them having a slightly less accurate idea of me because i have my own separate discernment and idea of me from there, i can just discern, what is the action i want to take? maybe it is to clarify. maybe it's just to say "Ok." and to speak from the heart
it's tolerable, this imperfect understanding. instead, we get to have imperfect, real, relationships we become two real people, in relationship, rather than two half people trying to exist on the weight of each other two people two https://t.co/3qmVfEg9B8
it's not possible. by the time you've felt one thing, it's moved on the next, and there are so many nuances. it's not logistically possible to verbalise it to yourself, let alone another person. the body and feelings move too fast, when not frozen https://t.co/pGcZFYdqBz
>Somewhere along this road, I also lost interest in learning to comprehensively express my inner world through techniquified stuff like NVC or circling. ive said this before, and i'll quote it again: https://t.co/bTXxmV1lYZ
the biggest predictors of how conflict will go for me are: 1. can i stay connected to myself? 2. can i care about me? 3. can i care about them? ... 36. do i understand why i feel the way i do? 37. do i understand why they feel the way they do? https://t.co/9q48sBzal2
i am a creature embedded in my life, other ppl r embedded in their lives sometimes there’s space for interaction & overlap, but it never really approaches 100% overlap. they always stay a different person. their feedback & how they feel about me always has a lot to do with them