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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

a mother’s love is neither about replacing romantic relationships, friendships, or birthday cakes; nor can it be replaced by them

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love is about nurturance and protection: the familiar sense of safety that feels like 𝘩𝘰𝘮𝘦, and a connection to our inner compass that guides us in all those other things

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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there is something it feels like to be deprived of a mother’s love, a constant hunger that no amount of boys, friends, or cakes totally erase, nor are meant to. mother hunger

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love does not replace those things. it just provides the connection to self to receive those things. as a full human being

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love rewrites the architecture of attention we may have learnt, where we put attention on another instead of having it naturally, without overwhelm or need to maintain it, stay on us

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love supports gentle exploration in the world, as we become fuller partners, friends, career people, and individuals it’s not the smothering sense of escape and codependency. it’s the background presence that informs connection to self

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love does not replace those things. it just provides the connection to self to receive those things. as a full human being

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love rewrites the architecture of attention we may have learnt, where we put attention on another instead of having it naturally, without overwhelm or need to maintain it, stay on us

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love is rehabilitation of the exploratory system https://t.co/dr8BURcPnd

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

a lot of attachment and trauma stuff is rehabilitation of the exploratory system

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love is a fundamental rewrite of the architecture of our attention it’s a reversal of the futility of paying attention to ourselves into the discernment that comes with paying attention to our selves https://t.co/1BAoSNMguG

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

hypervigilant babies look different. they’re too busy watching the adults in the room, in fear of their reactions to them actually touching a block to actually play, it’s heartbreaking. https://t.co/LWIXcMmEwx

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love is full of little and practical wisdom on relating https://t.co/8x2CUPY2aj

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

at some point, i started reading this book called Queen Bees and Wannabes for parents of young daughters, and there’s this page that changed me here, in clear language, was spelled out what i could ask of friends, intimate partners, parents

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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the tragedy of human beings is they can be fully functional without being fundamentally at peace. it is also a source of resiliency— that lineages survive until the generation that might yet recover that peace, and deliver it to the the next

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love is always available to return to via the earth

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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a mother’s love is the fundamental reversal of attention on the other to attention on the self and yes

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 2 years ago

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- paraphrasing from Mother Hunger and @jessicamalonso on attentional architecture

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francis@pachabelcanon• about 2 years ago

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@AskYatharth you seem to coming to attachment and mothers a lot! you critiqued lacan on exactly this iirc, that the mother isn't an impossible object that is always lost - this thread's v helpful!

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