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Holy fuck I’ve been waiting 30 years to hear her say this and it just casually happened over a text exchange after a slightly testy phone conversation https://t.co/o9HtUK5RnU
the conversation was actually really valuable too. the conversation prior to it was my mom doing the lecturing thing about "you gotta settle down and have work and stuff". i realized that ive never told her my plans, just as i hadnt with dating https://t.co/7p5OEcKHdL
Mom started lecturing me in a meandering hard to follow way, first about the importance of having kids early, then the importance of being stable with a job. I tried to connect with why she was sharing (e.g. what was hard for her about having me at age 35)
i was always afraid to share because it was still tender and unclear in me, and i assumed that she'd just judge and not listen and blow over whatever i had to say. but i feel a lot more assured in it these days, as well as more trust in myself and our relationship
they were actually really respectful and listened and seemed to take in what i had to say, which i dont think i was properly appreciative/grateful of. they only shared what they thought because i asked them "hows this land with you guys what are your thoughts?"
later i messaged her apologizing for being frustrated, naming that "i always assume that you're trying to change me or tell me im doing something wrong, but maybe you aren't actually doing that". to which she responded this fucking doozie https://t.co/SXK8deqKqB
