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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

the most anguishing part of jealous was that no one would care. they wouldn’t care, and i wouldn’t care… i’d ignore/hide/consider threatening/dismiss. anything but take it seriously

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

“do i still have to do that?” that is the question. to look at my environment. to look at myself and my resources. to look at the other person. “do i still need to do that?”

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

the answer is increasingly “no.” keep an eye on it, keep a check in it, because i still haven’t built enough trust i’ll respond to it, but otherwise—it wants nothing from this moment. it just wants to know i’ll respond to it as and when i need to https://t.co/JCrLZ6wg8j

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

a kind of unthinking, unquestioning responsiveness to self https://t.co/TGXs08ZjJH

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

responsiveness aliveness is reaching your hand out for someone who is falling because they are falling there’s no thought i should do this

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

related https://t.co/V8rprydHLk

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

boundaries need to matter to you first and before they matter to the relational container

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

also related https://t.co/pIaxH20x1u

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

communication can be part of it, and their changing their behaviour can be part of it, and has been — but 𝘪 𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘧𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘰𝘮 𝘪 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘬

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

like half the things in my life, this too reduces to the first step being noticing “do i feel safe in my body?” and orienting from there

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

a home of a body https://t.co/zVbBDdcUzm

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

your body is meant to feel like a home this is what men who have never been socialised to consider or track their own nervous system’s safety are missing you can feel safety in your body, and it can radiate outward https://t.co/VLkqAbznh6

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