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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

boundaries need to matter to you first and before they matter to the relational container

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

some people don’t know how to make they boundaries matter to them and expect the relationship to care for them, and they get really mad at all sorts of abandonment type stuff

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

they blow up at women in their replies for being “hostile” to them, if they simply disengage, or don’t caretake their feelings https://t.co/vGA0VYebrt

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

but the other person might not have consented to managing your feelings or their impact on you yet strangers don’t know you anything, even people replying to your twitter threads don’t necessary owe you something

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

random people you met are not a source of love for you yet. they’re just a person

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

you want people to abandon their preferences, because you don’t realise you’ve abandoned yours https://t.co/r5BwKMH3dS

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

but they might be fine just like… leaving the connection. you’re not fine. you experience them as going away as making a demand on you because the template of your experience was when people in connection leave, you have to make them ok with you, even if you’re out of integrity

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

>boundaries need to matter to you first and before they matter to the relational container this is kind of what shit tests are about lol

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