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they blow up at women in their replies for being “hostile” to them, if they simply disengage, or don’t caretake their feelings https://t.co/vGA0VYebrt
but the other person might not have consented to managing your feelings or their impact on you yet strangers don’t know you anything, even people replying to your twitter threads don’t necessary owe you something
you want people to abandon their preferences, because you don’t realise you’ve abandoned yours https://t.co/r5BwKMH3dS
but they might be fine just like… leaving the connection. you’re not fine. you experience them as going away as making a demand on you because the template of your experience was when people in connection leave, you have to make them ok with you, even if you’re out of integrity