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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

before understanding this, confidence felt like a trick something you did to convince people. and it worked. with investors, acquaintances, etc. but human relationships are a whole different thing. what i didn’t realise is confidence was actually about safety https://t.co/G3sO8VrxCo

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

> You can’t feel confident unless you feel safe.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

confidence wasn’t about a trick. it was about actually feeling safe. and you know what? that feels a lot better internally too https://t.co/nZGCSLmT1U

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

>Boundaries engender trust. >Most importantly, you personally feel safe. >And safe within your boundaries, you can allow the right people close instead of seeking approval from outside.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

romantic relationships and deep friendships are far too long, intense, and human to maintain it as a trick for too long “just go fucking find actual safety man” is what i feel like saying to my younger self, but it wouldn’t have been actionable for him. he wouldn’t know how

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

when you find safety unsafe, it really fucks you up advice about seeking safety would have felt like it was naïve and not going to help me make it https://t.co/aPGHQ1uVHK

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

it still feels unsafe to be safe sometimes but it’s changing a little. life is beginning to feel lighter, in the kind of way that is not just a moment, but makes you think it could be the rest of your life https://t.co/m2rlzZHCPU

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Johnson (Seattle Oct-Nov, Taiwan Dec-)@justavagrant_• almost 3 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

@AskYatharth I’ve lacked safety in terms of attachment to outcomes, among other things https://t.co/oe5th8Byy2

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Johnson (Seattle Oct-Nov, Taiwan Dec-)@justavagrant_• almost 3 years ago

i now think real confidence is about faith in one's ability to surf uncertainty, to navigate non-doing, to respond and flow with what's there. https://t.co/95UWSGhxuJ

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