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“i don’t want you to just reassure me. that doesn’t make me fucking feel safe.” https://t.co/LSrvd3Ne92
interestingly, it’s *still about your feeling in the present* (the peace). but it’s just about understanding it on a deeper level “i don’t want you to just reassure me. that doesn’t make me fucking feel safe.” “i want a plan to make sure this doesn’t happen again”
or else i WILL hide any and all emotion from you https://t.co/Y2HFyjOuZt
where does this come from-fear of abandonment, duh https://t.co/wFAo6MyAxB
when i imagine the ideal response, it’s something more like, “hey. i see you’re anxious/stressed. and that’s ok with me! you can literally continue to hang out like that. it’s kind of your problem, more than mine. i’m ok, even if you’re not ok”
somehow gives me more space i know their curiosity is not invasive they don’t “need” me to be ok. https://t.co/KcmB0scKO9
i’m too stressed about “incurring” their service somehow, if they’re checking in on me. like they’ll give up on me. i don’t truly feel secure. it either feels invasive, or it feels like i need to get back up to “happy unproblematic yatharth” asap else they’ll leave me
i thought my job was to provide this perfect interface to people, else they would leave me https://t.co/K8Ji8B79K3