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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Most of the time, when people are excited to tell you stuff, you just need to ask them more about it.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

> OMG I JUST XXXX You don’t need to respond a particular way. That’s not the point. Just ask a question. Let them talk more.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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> OMG I JUST XXXX “What was that like?” > IT WAS BLAH BLAH BLAH AND BLAH ANS BLAH “Sounds like . . . :)” > YEAH

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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It’s almost obvious in retrospect. Too “excited.” Want to share. Excess energy. Just need to give space for it to be shared, in a way where you feel genuinely enthused, “YES THIS IS COOL” too.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

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It’s very different from something like shame, which is when a person shares something embarassing and sorta looks up at you 🥺 and your only job is to not really react that much and care and show empathy but be unmoved by it. It’s nbd, help release drama from it.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

In all our reactions and shares, whether excited or embarassing, there can be that moment, when after a gush of sharing much, we stop and check to watch your partner and see if they’re tracking. Understanding the simple yet nuanced dynamics can help see clearly and feel freeing.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

“Technique will free the actor.” The point of technique or this kind of analysis is not to be a rule, but rather to be a point of clarity, that lets you see more, whether it is the case and how it’s not.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

(This is actually how all complex perception works—based on hierarchical differences from a mean. We recognise facial features by deviation from mean. Developing means helps us notice the differences more finely.)

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