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The pain isn’t of the nervousness. The awkwardness isn’t of the nervousness. Sure, that’s when people usually feel the pain and awkwardness. But the cause of the pain and nervousness is not being with what is~ then.

To be with what is means making even the hesitation feel authentic, even the nervousness feel brave. https://t.co/tFk1hiwp6Z

The professor sifts away what doesn’t need responding. https://t.co/135y7R9iHO

She neither affirms nor rebukes “nervousness is a problem.” She doesn’t need to. She simply makes an informed guess about what lies behind it, and putting the student in touch with that. https://t.co/gRQxvGk9dT

We love it so sweetly when someone takes a chance to reach into behind what we said and put us in touch with a part of ourselves that was in pain. https://t.co/XJS4MJZKtH

“Why does acceptance hurt?” Because the hurt is already there. The pain and effort of maintaining a delusion, of grasping on so tightly so that we might survive, clefting off voices in ourselves so we might not lose focus — that hurts. https://t.co/PRDI7kIlPc

We want to be rescued. We cannot be. https://t.co/sJR9Q3Nlyv

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