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1. Firstly, an important caveat. Relationships are largely luck-based. Chance plays a role at every step. Where you meet them, whether they match basic criteria such as age, location, availability, your respective attachment styles and many other factors.
16. When you want them to do something but they won’t, it usually means there is a responsibility you're not taking. Say you get annoyed that they put their socks on the floor. It could be you're not as tidy as you'd like to be, or you're tidy and you want them to live your way.
17. To have a healthy relationship, there is inner work to be done. Some need a lot more than others. Self-love is often the remedy, but for most people, it’s a journey to get there. A lucky few are blessed with it right off the bat, though they still have their own shadows.
45. Long term relationships are a balancing act between satisfaction and complacency. You want to be satisfied with what you have and vibe with each other without too much effort, but you also don’t want to become complacent and make zero effort.
58. Recognise your circular arguments. The ones that repeat and don't come to a resolution. To come to a resolution, you will need to shift your approach. Usually, the person who feels like the victim (or both) are not taking responsibility for something.
89. Your partner impacts your health outcomes. You'll have more meals with them than others. You'll mimic them in ways unbeknownst to you. Long term partners develop the same types of wrinkles because of the subtle ways they mimic each other’s facial expressions. Choose wisely.