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“Acceptance is never about accepting one thing over the another.” That is the mind’s idea of acceptance. Resignation rather than acceptance. https://t.co/QIECnlafQS
“Why does acceptance hurt?” Because the hurt is already there. The pain and effort of maintaining a delusion, of grasping on so tightly so that we might survive, clefting off voices in ourselves so we might not lose focus — that hurts. https://t.co/PRDI7kIlPc
Acceptance doesn’t cause pain any more than what was there. It’s being with the pain. And sometimes, you’re not ready or wanting to be with the pain yet. And 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘰𝘬. https://t.co/oBV86maRaY
The mind wants to generate all these sorts of dramas. “Ohhh, if I martyr my desire to dissociate, maybe I’ll get something worthy in return. Ohhh!” Where does this come from? I have one hypothesis. https://t.co/4ZvZ5YbzMt
I think the reason it’s so tempting to be a victims to “parts” inside us is it gives us an excuse. We need an excuse. We desperately need to explain to society, to our parents, boss, the parent living inside our head—to any figures of authority asking—why we fucked up.
The drama is a plea to show your authority figures you ARE doing something. Can’t they see?? Gosh, I get chills writing this, feeling into the truth of how I still do this to this day. https://t.co/DXF3Itu7tX
Would there be any such need for drama in a 1-player game? https://t.co/F1c3OQFe5u
If you find yourself performing the drama, that’s ok, go accept THAT and perform the drama even more fully, put on an Italian accent, make it even more melodramatic, till you’re in experiential, heart-breaking touch with the part of you that wanted to make it dramatic. https://t.co/JbhDfUHETs
Dissociation too is coherent. The urge to dissociate, too, is sacred and worth respecting. Imagine not respecting that. https://t.co/R7tk2o2bll
Remember this core principle. To diffuse drama into play: https://t.co/o50nTq15wJ
I struggle as I write this to write from heart instead of gut. And I notice this, and I smile. A little voice rushed to attack. A little voices rushed to defend. Another one noticed it all happening and let it dissolve. Previously . . . it would have only been voice #1.
An example of drama coming up. https://t.co/dLOSDffZIp
@narfanator It’s very simple. I had of drama in my head about what it means to be enlightened and feeling coerced into it and wanting permission / for an unspecified “them” to give me permission or acceptance or something or the other. https://t.co/UIlFPT6ab2
We feel silly immediately after dropping the drama. This, too, is coherent. It literally does embarass us to admit we were being dramatic. This is why we sometimes overplay the drama and gently ease down. That’s ok too🐣
Maybe I will find myself wanting to brush my teeth, though tired, or whatever it is I had “I don’t wanna” drama about. “Don’t. Go straight to bed. What not?” “Actually maybe I wanna.” “Good :) Do whatever you want.” https://t.co/x7BCONGxYE
Be with the pain there that is, and you will find yourself not so worried about judgment anymore :) You will see more clearly, and kindly, and with open goodwill, that comes from being with a heavy heart than shielding it. https://t.co/NBBdG1C41f
“Judgment doesn’t create pain. Only reminds us of our own.” https://t.co/jvAvh872UT
That I fear their judgment is not because of the judgment; it’s because of the pain already there. My pain already exists. If I am with it . . . strange, judgment holds no sway. Judgment doesn’t create pain. Only reminds us of our own. https://t.co/XJS4MJZKtH
What drama is is convincing others of something we want to own. https://t.co/DCQAdoPAK7
@AskYatharth https://t.co/oP1E8tSKLi
