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I’m now reading: this completely life changing book. The Language of Emotions by Karla McLaren https://t.co/qqNMGLwLCG
The Grievous Consequences of Never Grieving grief cleanses us through complete immersion in the river of all souls “if a culture doesn’t properly grieve their loved ones into their death journeys, they cannot properly welcome their children into their life journeys.” https://t.co/cefmj97Y0P
“Our lust for distraction...comes directly from the heart of unhealed trauma. How did a people as bright and verbal as ourselves miss the fact that unrelieved trauma (especially in childhood) impacts our society at every level?” https://t.co/QbNwzKpV4M
“If more than half of us were deaf, we would expect a vastly different society than one where deafness was not so prevalent. The behavior of the traumatized half of our society directly impacts how society functions at every possible level.”
“Empathically speaking, traumatic and dissociated behaviors are almost always contagious. ... Dissociated people have poor boundaries, and they tend not to be aware of boundaries in others, which makes them somewhat hazardous, emotionally and socially.”
Reminds me of this tweet. Interesting spin! “If you’re traumatized, you’re morally obligated to heal” 🤔🤔 Feels like both relief (“yay! I’m morally obligated to heal my pain + be nice to myself!”) and insult2injury (“fuck...I guess I’ll face this shit I already didn’t want”) https://t.co/x61JxyVh9v
Some moral thoughts: To be a good person in the world, your "love" has to be able to win out over your "fear". This sounds vague but it actually involves tonnes of nitty gritty project management. If you want be virtuous, you're morally obliged to dismantle a lot of your fears
“Authentic contentment arises reliably when you respect yourself&others,& you respect your emotions+allow them to guide your behavior. If you can’t connect with your natural contentment, you may have a short circuit created by authoritarian, scholastic, or parental structures.”
”Though awards and praise may have value, they tend to isolate you from your peers and identify you as a competitor or a pleaser, which will often bring your natural shame forward to question the ‘fun’ of winning.”
“Maintaining your consciousness may seem like a lot of work, but it actually takes less energy (and less money!) than avoidance. Consciousness finds beauty and solace in what is, while distractions always need more and bigger and newer and different.”