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QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

"fuck it, we bawl": thread of threads about crying, sobbing, weeping, wailing, gnashing of teeth 😭🔜😎 #SobSquad

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

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QC@QiaochuYuan• almost 6 years ago

Our feelings are like babies who never had a chance to grow up, and babies make messes. They scream and cry. They shit and vomit. It takes a lot to raise a baby, especially by yourself. And the world isn't set up for it.

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

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QC@QiaochuYuan• almost 6 years ago

yeah sex is good but have you ever tried helping a friend cry about how he feels responsible for his dad's death and - this is the crazy shit - how he *needs* to feel responsible for his dad's death, because otherwise the world doesn't make any sense and god is a piece of shit

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/6RyAecTUYF

QC@QiaochuYuan• almost 6 years ago

sometimes self-care means skipping the halloween party to cry by the water, wish me luck

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/WRhMXhK9Fp

QC@QiaochuYuan• almost 6 years ago

@PhoropterRaptor @cognazor can't skip cry day bro

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/uRQpBdrvKM

QC@QiaochuYuan• almost 6 years ago

what if there's no such thing as tears of joy

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/tMhGpztyL2

QC@QiaochuYuan• almost 6 years ago

six words: break your own heart to cry

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

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https://t.co/4Clro7nLns

QC@QiaochuYuan• almost 6 years ago

i’m definitely sad about something but i’ll be damned if i know what hmm this is what happens when i skip cry day

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/vZszU67Jyw

QC@QiaochuYuan• almost 6 years ago

you want to give men what they need to cry? disentangle crying from femininity. that association is modern and unnecessary. the ancient male heroes wept freely https://t.co/7E6g6nw31M https://t.co/Aep2vFGJm3

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/kFNZBgBoU2

Malcolm Ocean 🏴‍☠️@Malcolm_Ocean• almost 6 years ago

The "dissolving the patriarchy" metaphor is very vivid for me: much of my trauma work so far has involved a lot of sobbing, so the tears are the solvent. (I'm using the NEDERA process from Bio-Emotive/@DougTataryn, which tends to involve a lot of crying) https://t.co/hMBZ402lPr

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/CL4ItcwgYT

Malcolm Ocean 🏴‍☠️@Malcolm_Ocean• almost 6 years ago

@choosy_mom @reasonisfun @QiaochuYuan @meditationstuff Sob Squad. Wow. Yup, that's going in my twitter bio: 😭😎 #SobSquad Making crying hard not just normal but *cool* https://t.co/A8EKzzTnZk

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12/11/2019

Jakeup@yashkaf• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

@QiaochuYuan OK, but what if I actually haven't cried in more than a year? Any pointers on how to get my first good sob on? Asking not for a friend but for me because I want to try crying or cry trying.

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @yashkaf

@yashkaf ah thanks for reminding me to include this thread: https://t.co/sPnknGCjKx

Fiora@FioraAeterna• almost 6 years ago

i was recently shown a method for dealing w/unwanted feelings and its not special or anything but i figure there's some other people out there who never learned it either https://t.co/Rh1T1TKB1P

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/sPnknGCjKx

Fiora@FioraAeterna• almost 6 years ago

i was recently shown a method for dealing w/unwanted feelings and its not special or anything but i figure there's some other people out there who never learned it either https://t.co/Rh1T1TKB1P

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12/11/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/0ZxQBzgYFV

Malcolm Ocean 🏴‍☠️@Malcolm_Ocean• almost 6 years ago

I once did an emotional processing session starting w: "I feel weird/bad trying to get out of bed" I found my way to expressing a hazy memory: "Nobody woke me up and I missed the pancakes!" ...then I suddenly started sobbing 😭 Traumatic meaning can occur in benign situations.

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12/12/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/znss3bBr9O

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

this has been a pattern in my sessions lately: that acknowledging something "negative" i've been feeling for a long time doesn't quite generate a full reaction, but explicitly contrasting it with its "positive" version does e.g.: https://t.co/UucfE2svms

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12/13/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/eTYViuJwtI

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

PSA since the #SobSquad tide has been rising lately: you 1000% don't need to push yourself into any more of your emotional stuff than you feel ready for. you're protecting yourself from that stuff for *good reasons* and that's worth honoring. it's good to protect yourself! ❤️

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12/14/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/HjaVjhKUZ0

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12/24/2019

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/rrZuyU9Ail

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4/6/2020

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/MUKDOYWsCT

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

i had a big NEDERA / crying session last night after feeling very bad for a week and am finally feeling a lot better, here are my notes on the session (from memory) https://t.co/7eyefCtjYy

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4/26/2020

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/cnXYjW07Ff

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4/26/2020

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/MCfSK3OA3n

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 5 years ago

might fuck around and make this my new crying spot https://t.co/IEFhJVQKH4

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5/13/2020

QC@QiaochuYuan• about 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

https://t.co/trmX8Xfc7Y

Guy HAS FINISHED WRITING THE BOOK (BETA)@nosilverv• about 5 years ago

I jokingly shit on #sobsquad and @QiaochuYuan and @Malcolm_Ocean but I also genuinely like them and think they're on to something important. Now I LIEK to understand things so here's what I think is going on with that/crying/@dougtataryn's Bioemotive framework

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6/21/2020

QC@QiaochuYuan• over 3 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

yeah that's right we out here updating a thread from 2019 https://t.co/EAPbubjw01

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1/8/2022

james, the giant peach@JimmyRis• over 5 years ago

Replying to @QiaochuYuan

@QiaochuYuan The champion sound was the sound of men crying this whole time...

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12/11/2019