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the truth I hate the most is probably "people who are really knowledgeable are publicly silent about the juiciest stuff, because the upside to talking about it publicly is minimal, and the downside potentially catastrophic" really sucks for smart kids in shitty social graphs
correcting this will require coordinating against cruelty https://t.co/cNC86MObxb
but progress is slow because we are bad at coordination https://t.co/8G1gHOqimZ
from my POV, based on my context, I believe that the best thing to do is to tend to your own social graphs. find smart kids and help them. if you manage semi-public spaces, have a clear no-asshole rule and enforce it. Create & maintain nourishing (not coddling!) spaces
funny thought: this is a really long-winded way to say that I hate assholes but I really do, I really hate assholes they disproportionately ruin everything (and few people say anything, because they don't want to invite the wrath of assholes, which is also disproportionate)
more context: https://t.co/tWqYV4U8Up
There’s no nice way to say it: some people are assholes. The mature thing to do is to focus on the behavior, not the person. But regardless, asshole behavior is real, and it’s a problem - a huge problem, actually, because assholism has a way of hijacking and derailing good things
header-in-the-game https://t.co/IfQ7XR36BE
When I said "hate" earlier, I mean it in a relatively casual-ish way, not too far off from "I hate soggy vegetables" or "I hate slack's new logo". I think it's very important to distinguish this from *contempt", which is vicious and destructive https://t.co/XYzhblSApg
I think it’s very important to be able to discern & identify contempt, bc it is noxious & destructive as hell. Contempt isn’t mere criticism, or disagreement, or dislike, or distaste. Contempt is wrath. Contempt is a deep, fundamental vicious resentment that borders on murderous
we cannot allow our hatred of assholes to turn us into assholes ourselves. it's pretty tricky, and something that people tend to be silent about because it will get you blowback from your own ingroup. "kindness??? to our enemies???" it's not for them. https://t.co/15rMi55uji
I always wondered why Actually Successful people don’t talk very much publicly about the details of journeys and paths, and I’ve come to learn that it’s because there are disincentives for this that hit almost everyone *except* frauds - which then perpetuates a hostile commons