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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

"How do I build more intimate relationships with people" is a very important question I don't hear many ppl talk abt https://t.co/bBXuCkvvZz

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

In my experience the #1 best way to build close f/ships in a very short amount of time (not that you should rush it) is to help in crisis

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

I alluded to this slightly in "being smart vs being kind"https://t.co/8qCNhLmbQ1 – its gr8 to become some1 ppl trust, confide in, listen to

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

I sometimes post long, vulnerable statuses on FB. Some of my acquaintances find this to be oversharing. But others PM me and pour hearts out

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

Building deep, strong relationships with people who will ugly-cry at your funeral requires the very opposite of "chill"

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

(but of course, you don't want to be a clingy, needy, overly-attached, overly-dramatic friend either. Life can be complicated, who knew?)

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

The people we care abt shape our ideas of success. We are social creatures; we live for each other even if we don't want to admit it

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

Anybody who tweets, cares about what other people think. Pretend that this isn't true is a losing game. Rather, we should get better at it

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

By better, I mean: lets choose our friends more carefully, focus on who and what we want to care about, reward, celebrate

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

Even now, ~10 tweets in, a voice in my head goes "dude, stop, you're overdoing it" – but that's me worrying about ppl I don't care about

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

Which brings me back to this – the importance and utility of being weird, in the right ways. #weirdheart https://t.co/aVCS0QEaIs

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

This was a much better read than I originally expected and it is giving me Strong Feelings that I shall tweet about now https://t.co/cr2h3F7epL

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

Barbell strategy applied to emotions: Being able to have Very Strong Feelings + also being able to be zen-calm when situation calls for it

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

When I was a teen I thought being able to have Very Strong Feelings was the most important thing, bc The System had a lobotomizing effect

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Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• about 8 years ago

Replying to @visakanv

As 20s working adult, I thought being able to Put Away Your Feelings was the most important thing, bc I needed to be responsible+functional

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