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In most places, in 2025, it is normal and expected for a woman to depart from traditional feminine norms. She can criticize and defect from them without great social cost to herself. It is not possible for a man to defect from masculine norms without a life-altering cost. He can make himself apparently harmless and lose any hope of traditional status, or he can actively rebel - losing access to polite society at best, and finding himself in prison at worst. This is because masculinity is how we enforce male prosociality. It's the set of taboos and norms that shapes both the violence and generativity of the male ego, in all domains that the law cannot. If men were unrestrained, civilization at its current level of complexity would be totally impossible. Therefore, men cannot both meaningfully defect from masculine norms and fully participate in civilization. This is also why male privilege is inescapable and universal across cultures. Both men and women depend on male responsibility to keep them safe, and there's no conceivable world in which women willingly accept a similar burden of duty. The reason feminism never seems to fully succeed in any of its incarnations is that it can't, ideologically, accept its existential dependence on male forbearance. If they did, they would have to admit their interdependence with men and make concessions, which would obliterate the feasibility of the worldview. The fact of civilization, as it exists, requires more responsibility of men, and therefore we collectively allocate more status to men based on such. Rights and responsibilities are the same thing. It doesn't matter how you feel about it. NB: This also means there is absolutely nothing about privilege to be ashamed of. People - especially liberal people - will tell you that you're free to act however you want, and don't have to be limited by a restrictive masculinity. But the moment you violate one of the taboos, you become persona non grata. Not even transitioning to another gender frees you from the duties assigned to you. Just ask a trans woman. Masculinity as a set of unspoken assumptions about male stability, forbearance and nobility is baked into the structure of human civilization itself - possibly even into our biology - and there's no world we recognize that doesn't include it. So don't listen to anyone, especially women, when they tell you that masculinity doesn't matter, or that it somehow doesn't pervade every single domain of your life. If someone is saying that, it just means they have repressed the truth of the matter down into their taboo structure, and will inevitably experience your defection as a violation of social reality itself. Conforming to masculine expectation is the inevitable burden of being born male, and the sacrificial price all men pay to keep the lights on and the gears turning for human civilization. It is also a fun game when you get good at it, the stakes are not too high. It can be a lot of fun, it can earn you status and money, and it can get you laid a lot, if you treat it like a timeless art or craft that you can master. I think you should master it! Better to take possession of it then to let others take possession of you through it. But don't get confused. There is no escape.

@VividVoid_ Yeah I hate to say this bc im mostly very liberal - well mostly haha - but in my experience, while women are generally very open to things outside the norms, when it comes to choosing THEIR own partner they default to traditional stuff, yes

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@VividVoid_ Yeah this is what I was trying to say in this thread. Society will always hate weak men because weak men are dangerous leaders

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@VividVoid_ "In most places, in 2025, it is normal and expected for a woman to depart from traditional feminine norms. She can criticize and defect from them without great social cost to herself." I disagree with this whole heartedly.

Something I find a bit interesting is how many MtFs desire to take on a "receptive" role in relationship dynamics (at least in my circles, often due to being tired of always having to be the one to schedule things), but often mistake this for passiveness and end up upset that they're not getting attention when they idly stand in the room without engaging with the flow.