Daniel K is in NYC (Oct 27th onward)@dkazand• 7 months ago

new episode with @dthorson on why Secure Attachment is upstream of ~everything links below 00:00 Welcome back to The Metagame 00:39 Reflections on 5yrs of monastic training 02:10 Fixing yourself presupposes you’re broken 06:22 Spirituality is Secure Attachment with reality 12:21 Collapsing ontology and phenomenology 13:19 The problem of "inferential distance" 14:46 Evoking the subjective experience of love 18:59 Attachment security is upstream of ~everything 21:54 The Mother Wound: safety and shame 33:20 The Father Wound: authority and value 38:01 Balancing order and freedom 39:29 On defragmenting conflicting parts 41:01 Why is it SO hard to know our true desires? 42:55 How to step into your own Authority 51:34 Start with healing the Mother Wound 51:51 Practical steps for healing 53:49 If love is so fundamental, why don't we see it? 59:05 Coaching, Ideal Parent Figure Protocol and using Claude 1:04:36 Why “more meditation” isn’t the answer 1:07:19 The metacrisis is an intimacy crisis 1:09:44 Do this one practical thing