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I sort of follow this design philosophy for music i'm not going to make Elton John money but the payoff is -already- the fellow musicians on repost-exchange where we pat each other on the back for the "credit interactions" and they value my creations enough to go "ahhahahHAH THAT guy!" and just to very slowly pick up 5-10 follows a week that are stick-with-it's and arguably trying to ensnare large market-sections of "civilians" is much like trying to chase a romantic prospect that doesn't grok you back anyway https://t.co/k2vas5M742
@ChrisChipMonk @arafatkatze I mean there was some time on X in a thread i was grousing at a lady and we seemed to be at odds then i mentioned the side music thing and she's like "ok stop. that right there is a far better mating call than your whole thread hitherto"
@ChrisChipMonk @arafatkatze https://t.co/bV5YD0KvHo
y’all love to hear me talk about dating. this and more dating takes here soon: https://t.co/xXBQX93qHk
How I use this mindset: https://t.co/XK6kdXCaNb.
(if you like this boy are you going to like my coaching) ex: Sid went from needing months to ask out a crush → having *fun* flirting + making moves after 8.75 hours of coaching. he paid a bounty for this result, and would not have paid anything if it didn't work. link in bio https://t.co/xUx7DvPo9j
@ChrisChipMonk e.g. the love of my life stopped messaging me when we first met, and then I messaged her back a week later or something and said "have you gone shy on me?", not really expecting a response but she did and we met and we had the happiest time of our lives
@ChrisChipMonk Related: https://t.co/FvN0H2Qr1R
are you married/widowed? || in retrospect, was the leadup to your relationship more like a tightrope you had to walk, or more of a situation where you both liked each other up-front enough that you could've fumbled a fair bit without actually dropping the ball?
@ChrisChipMonk this is pretty true romantic or otherwise people sometimes remark i open up quick i like to get out of the common topics it often gets awkward but at this point i prefer awkward to dragging out a relationship that isnt gonna be around in a year i like to explore
@ChrisChipMonk This is the truth. In other words, be your authentic self and that's the best kind of flirting. Operate from everything below the brain and see the magic happen. It's always the mind that brings pointless games to it.
@ChrisChipMonk This mindset is useful for getting your mind out of the way, but the mind is part of attraction and you can't easily sequence someone else's genome so you judge it by proxies, like looks, how they talk, body language. You need to get your foot in the door regardless.
@ChrisChipMonk 💯 Similar idea https://t.co/UIj6NKXDt7
@ChrisChipMonk there’s an art to revealing, too i believe flirting is like selling yourself (even if you’re not actively doing so) you can have a great product, but you also need to know how to sell it, especially when there’s competition
@ChrisChipMonk Sorry, flirting has little, if anything at all, to do with compatibility. It has everything to do with attraction. So, the predetermined factor here is mutual attraction. One of the issues with modern dating is that most people don't factor in compatibility — shared values, etc.
@ChrisChipMonk hmm, seems like it could be a helpful mindset for some people, but it also seems maybe not true? that is to say, it neglects the role of skill or charisma/internal states that generate sparks but plausibly when you meet the person, it's already determined for that interaction
@CurtTigges related: https://t.co/Nh7h7MFZVV
@ChrisChipMonk there's an excellent @nabeelqu post on how sales is the same https://t.co/uKEEBAYGvS
@ChrisChipMonk @nabeelqu https://t.co/Z97LtsSBQe
@ChrisChipMonk very good take! I also think that flirting only works if you already like the person at least a little or if you're somewhat compatible. if you're not interested in each other then flirting makes you cringe. why? it's not about skill, but interest.
@ChrisChipMonk have you seen someone you sort of like flirt with someone else? it's brutal 😂 it instantly reduces interest/attraction for me. why? it's a bit like an inside joke - hilarious and lovely for those on the inside, often pathetic to anyone else.
How I use this mindset: https://t.co/XK6kdXCaNb.