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Years ago, I shot my shot with one of the most beautiful & intelligent women I've ever known. It was unlikely - she was much younger and lived far away - and she did turn me down. Later, after we'd built a friendship, she told me, "if you hadn't tried, I wouldn't respect you."
@startupmillyair @VividVoid_ not befriending someone who rejects you exclusively for the reason that they rejected you only holds bitterness in your heart. someone doesn’t want to be your romantic partner ≠they hold no value to your life.
@startupmillyair @VividVoid_ You mis out on learning from her to help you upgrade. As expertly shown via this tweet. Sometimes life lessons and friendships are more valuable than dates.
Oh, fuck off. One of my closest friends is a woman I was madly in love with who let me down super gently when I finally worked up the courage to tell her how I felt. Her relieving me of that burden and deciding to stick around is one of the greatest gifts I have ever received. I've been with that woman's best friend for 19 years now (dating for 5, married for 14), and that wouldn’t have happened if I cut and run like a little bitch.
@VividVoid_ respect https://t.co/0N5Y4MTwyQ
@VividVoid_ I've had similar experience being rejected. Even if they don't like you, they mostly are flattered if it's done respectfully. And the funnier part is how quickly many change their mind when you immediately accept the rejection and move on.
@VividVoid_ For context, it’s not that she needed him to find her attractive to respect him It’s that it was obvious he found her attractive (it usually is) and she wouldn’t respect him if he pretended he didn’t/was underhanded about it
@VividVoid_ Omg the replies are crazy I think its a sweet story. Everyone should overcome rejection sensitivity like this The world is still learning we can truly love & be loved by our friends, and if the lust/partnership part isn’t a goer, we can still enjoy even that unrequited energy