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this is gonna sound like a bit, but i'm serious: if there's one thing i suspect might be a cure to all ills, it is good reply game. i'd argue that good reply game, in le guin's sense of "love is not a stone that sits there, love is bread that must be remade anew, daily", IS love https://t.co/c6Cx1rQ3CA
love as service, as hosting, as attunement, as caring, as giving a shit, as making the other person feel better, feel like they belong, feel like they matter– that's the good shit. and you can do this within yourself, within your work, within everything
see also james baldwin's sense of love, of taking off the masks, a state of being and grace, quest and daring and growth https://t.co/zzsaUxi3Gu
love as collaboration, as laboring together, as looking out for each other, as seeing each other https://t.co/oSFNMyhgSE
love as call-and-response, love as repetition, love as support, love as encouragement https://t.co/xEYrn2DR35
"my job is not to just play with him, my job is to make him sound better" "you're hired!" "-that's what ends up happening" https://t.co/zIPa1RcSPX
it's not about blithely parroting people's words back to them or flattering their egos or saying only nice things it's about being sensitive to the wider context in which everything is happening and attending thoughtfully https://t.co/LShH5f6dXu
A common false dichotomy in a lot of contexts is “is it better to stand out or fit in?” You can actually do both well, or either terribly. It depends on your sensitivity to the context. Most things worth talking about are complex enough to allow for beautiful differences https://t.co/Y9aXwRtKTU
@visakanv oh, reply game as attunement, which is care, which is love https://t.co/dpqaUIFj32
@visakanv "attention is the practical currency of love" https://t.co/e10o1hqtL2