@JamesLimmer damaging a business because they’ve attempted to make it clear its a safe space for trans people? perhaps you’re the snowflake

that's insane. you're ruled over by a trans overclass? the president is trans? everybody is being pushed to trans? no. what has happened is that the historic level of discrimination lead to a counter effort restoring and celebrating pride. there's still plenty of discrimination. people are just getting pushback, occasionally, on some of the most egregious stuff. people are pissed that they can't be openly assholes to trans, and so we're the most protected class? yeah right

@ded_ruckus @fulligin @kitten_beloved other people living their lives is not a lie. having respect for people is not participating in a lie, it is the basis for civil society. having to witness a flag is not a demand.

going to try to mostly stay out of the tpot trans discourse, but i have one small thing to add:being forced to go through the wrong puberty is a horrible, traumatizing experience. listen to trans kids.here’s my own story, for anyone who would like to hear it:

i think transphobia rots the brain. like -30 iq

the way you win a culture war is by Living

in 2006, despite graduating with a first class honors and university medal (highest GPA) in computer science and physics, at 17, I couldn't find work at all (discrimination vs trans, probably, this was in montreal) at some point the bit flipped and I was like "oh, the system doesn't work, I have to take responsibility for creating my own opportunities or I will literally starve" I made a like $$ from winnings from topcoder competitions, and became an entrepreneur. i didn't have my name out there, so I started blogging at https://t.co/Q3UXnU9b79 and posting on hacker news. I applied to YC -- got rejected, but intro'd to amazing startups/founders, and did a little work for them. I slept on couches. I earned my keep making dumplings. I tried to prove my worth to cofounders by working on their projects, telling them about mine. Finally I found someone as excited about my long term projects as I was, and I went from there. at no point did the system pick me up and was like, here's what to do next, here's a job for you -- even though this is really all I wanted at the time -- just some financial stability while I transitioned. no dice, it was hard mode for me -- trans while your company is making you ~famous, have fun with that! but in return the wool was pulled from my eyes -- the system does not provide for you. you simply have to go out and make your own opportunities. but once you do, the world really is open to you

trans people have to put up with a disproportionate level of bile that is absolutely concern trolling most of the time. just try to follow the chain of discussion in my threads on this. one specious argument after another. this gives trans people no option but to put up barriers and avoid spaces where anti woke extremists are repeatedly given the benefit of the doubt.

@kamstq @spiderfoods @yacineMTB when people attack a tiny minority and they stand up to fight it, people on the sidelines saying “i don’t see why we’re fighting, this should be a civil discussion” could allay their ignorance by surveying the attacks and bile put onto that tiny minority. listen to them

the point of the double bind is invalidation. it doesn't have to have consistency to do that