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Matt Bateman@mbateman• about 1 year ago

If you disagree with your partner about some parenting situation, you don’t actually need to resolve the disagreement. You can instead say “which of us will be responsible for this situation”, and then that person decides.

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Matt Bateman@mbateman• about 1 year ago

Replying to @mbateman

Obviously agreement over time is desirable and some common ground is absolutely necessary. But @Gena_I_Gorlin and I often have stylistically different takes on what to do that we resolve in this way.

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Matt Bateman@mbateman• about 1 year ago

Replying to @mbateman

@Gena_I_Gorlin 1yo is playing at the kitchen sink and is likely to accomplish exporting an excess of water to places other than the sink. One parent wants to curtail this behavior, the other wants to allow it. Both of these paths involve work that one person could do. https://t.co/GvssWMp8ym

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Matt Bateman@mbateman• about 1 year ago

Replying to @mbateman

@Gena_I_Gorlin This is a simplified but real example, of a sort of thing which occurs hundreds of times a month, involving limits and manners and hygiene and diet and so on, often at the margins of what is normally principled common ground.

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Matt Bateman@mbateman• about 1 year ago

Replying to @mbateman

@Gena_I_Gorlin I think my approach works better than the two most likely alternative approaches: 1. reach agreement, immediately, somehow 2. one parent defers and implements the plan that is desired by the other parent

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