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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 1 year ago

on a more personal note i have a lot of shame about being around kids. being perceived as scary, the fact i have a beard, am a man, etc https://t.co/QGAT4a6bo6

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 1 year ago

misc thread of threads about working in a preschool https://t.co/MSOwSenLXe

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 1 year ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

it's different being those things, and not being good with kids, vs being a girl, in a skirt, and not comfortable being around kids latter is just "aww you're not comfortable," former feels like "do i even belong here?"

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 1 year ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

a lot of that shame/worry/feeling of like do i fit in, do i belong here is melting as i just get used to it even with just random families walking by on the street, i feel more comfortable (i can't express how grateful i am for that)

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 1 year ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

previously, i'd what, shrink? try to make myself invisible? now i just feel more normal. more outgoing i'd know what to do. i'm open to however they'd react but i'm also not anticipating rejection or overwhelm and shrinking and collapsing prematurely

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 1 year ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

i imagine a lot of men relate to this but perhaps really any social dynamic where there's historically been a power dynamic of one group perceiving another as more dangerous

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 1 year ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

ofc residual judgment from parents may reside, and that is what it is but it won't be layered on top of my shame, and there will be a core competency of comfort and safety to offer counter-evidence

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