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why are married people splitting the bill any bill at all why on earth would you waste time on this https://t.co/PIDB0pOaWc
separate bank accounts was something that seemed sketch to me five years ago but like ok fine i guess? but four years into a marriage with kid and one more on the way it just seems totally deranged anyway thats the kind of belief im updating lately
"well we have separate accounts for personal spending because it feels weird to (eg) spend, partly, someone else's money on a gift for them" ok what happens if one of you loses your job for an extended period and now all of the money is "one person's" money? 🤔
my and @selentelechia's one-income household feels like it makes even conceptual separation of our finances ridiculous yeah a paycheck has my name on it but it's not exclusively "mine" in any meaningful sense, the total process that results in this paycheck is 100% joint
@selentelechia generally our model is the japanese approach where i work, she spends its not quite that far because i handle some of the more administrative stuff (mortgage, insurance, utilities, etc) but for routine consumer spending it's substantially her labor on outlays
we're both frugal relative to income so there's not much attention paid to like hobby/personal spend mostly if there's a big purchase one of us is making we flag it to the other but this is pro forma. i mostly don't have any idea what she's spending money on i assume it's fine
legit tho https://t.co/4aOga6ySJp
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