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to the extent that you have a satisfying interface and can take the other's perspective, you actually want other people to be very UNpredictable, because that's more fun and interesting and at the edge of knowing https://t.co/MTE2F1PnYk
Self-Organized Criticality is a really important concept, and basic to how the universe manages to end up being interesting. These dynamics are fractal so they show up on all scales (eg neurons). @TaylorPearsonMe's thread is great. I'm going to share some thoughts of my own 🧵 https://t.co/iYQMchNu8g
A: "you have this pattern where you try to make people like you and then deny it" B: "that's not how it seems to me" A: "I knew you would say that." ...so what? if you can't invite the system into a better dance, who gives a shit if you're right?
but the person who gives a shit is you, of course. this pattern arises, I gather, from someone experiencing a sense of unsafety regarding those around them, and attempting to predict these hostile entities to protect themselves and avoid the worst of the damage.
ah! yeah exactly, the reason people get fixated on their prediction success is that it's too scary to do this: https://t.co/hzPCBgEiNP
and to be clear, the solution (afaict) is not to try to just naively trust other people, but to bootstrap your own trusting process, listen to yourself more closely, build trust where it can be built, and so on https://t.co/W0NyiXuuEv
if someone can't trust me in some way, even if I or others *do* trust me in this way then I cannot ask them to trust me more than they can trust me each person has been betrayed in different ways, and their trust must thus be earned in different ways