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i find it hard to take seriously any of these more ancient buddhist or hindu traditions that talk about āangerā as this thing you need to calm down from, save yourself making mistakes from do they have no conception of it as useful?
itās so foreign to the developmentally informed, attachment and emotional fluency world where anger has a deep and obviously useful place in the primal intelligence of our bodies like telling us when a boundary has been crossed, and something needs to change
i could see where theyāre coming from. it is a deep insight that the experience of anger too is empty, and fixed reactions we have to it are not necessarily what need to happen strong parallels to the emotional fluency world, where it feels more beneficially articulated https://t.co/WjQGR8vH6F
An important piece of navigating your emotional inner world is learning to slow things down enough to differentiate the many things going on that we typically bundle into ābeing [angry]ā - experiencing internally - reacting (internally or externally) - expressing - communicating
i guess we find the language most suited to us, and the wisdom refined in the aspect we need it most to be refined in, and engaged with what weāre trying to do for me, that's engaging in householder life in a gently and deeply emotionally present way
i guess as someone who grew up with the vibe of ignoring emotionality "beware the harmful actions of anger" sounds a whole lot like "beware anger" when there's no clarification, or reminder of anger as not just natural, but useful https://t.co/OJOuI2X08A
@warmbott yeah, thatās what they actually say in the fine print but without any clarification, any reminder of anger is not just natural, but useful, the vibe is one of eschewing anger even if thatās not what they mean, thatās the lossy transmission of it
there's advice people most need to hear at a moment of their life and mine wasn't, "beware the harmful actions of anger" it was "dude, have you noticed what the FUCK is going on down there? it's kind of cool. here- let me show you *gives 3 year tour of emotional aliveness*"
once again, im reminded my reaction to things is less about "good/bad" and more "yes/no" https://t.co/bQpO7RI5DU
@AskYatharth Iām guessing a lot of ancient instruction was for princes and kings etc and since they were powerful nepobabies they didnāt really have to worry about the š of suppressed anger, their main issue wouldāve been the š of excess anger