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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• about 2 years ago

you get stuck in inaction when you're trying to satisfy multiple competing values simultaneously I've been practicing a specific move to get people unstuck in this situation...

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• about 2 years ago

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assume there are different "parts" of you that are committed to different values: it's like each part interrupts the other one before it has finished making its case, so they get stuck on endless loop advocating for their own thing and you can't make a decision

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• about 2 years ago

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as a coach I can get you to speak from one part at a time, so you can hear the full story and then the decision is usually obvious (creative synthesis of both options) the decision is the easy part, fully hearing the options is the challenge

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• about 2 years ago

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and the stuckness is tied up with identity Part B interrupts Part A because "what kind of person would I be if I allowed myself to want that"

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• about 2 years ago

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so it helps to do this with someone who you trust will accept you regardless of "what kind of person" you might be becoming

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rΞgΞn is composting culture 🧭@regencrypto• about 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

@RichDecibels brilliant. great practice. have you heard of Steven Kessler's 5 personality types and the somewhat recent emergence of subpersonalities (behaviour patterns)? useful ref for your work

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Johnson (TC House Lisbon -Dec)@justavagrant_• about 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

@RichDecibels IFS lyfe

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