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I *love* that everyone is trying to meme their dream partners into existence with objective list theory and wouldn’t dissuade anyone from this exercise, but: Almost every enduring couple I know found it fairly surprising what traits in a partner ended up making for a great match
Revealed preferences are that commonplaces like “kindness” often get discarded in favor of unknown unknowns. Objective list theory just isn’t that helpful for this goal. You want the dating equivalent of dynamical systems theory.
Consider embedding it in a list https://t.co/SRysvfNQvQ
what people think is great, what is actually great https://t.co/AdrKreKBTL
@mbateman For example, most girls don’t realize that “mid, 5’7” pedantic Neolib-rationalist type with strong takes about arcane philosophy, into esoteric online charity discussion and drugs but in the lamest possible sense” is actually the only necessary and sufficient set of such traits