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this is a significant part of why so many celebrities go mad, become skittish, suspicious & standoffish, or revert into something like an infantile state: the chaos is too much to manage. It’s an abusive relationship where your partner alternates between fawning and attacking you
if you’re careful about cultivating the right kind of audience, they don’t demand perfection- wew. - but if you’re a big enough 🎯, you will be attacked for your imperfections by the broader scene. typically by 1% of people who overreact for reasons that have nothing to do with u
if you been following my journey for a few years know you’ll know/see that I have been trying to precisely calibrate what is the amount of abuse I am willing/able to tolerate in order to maximally achieve my goal of presenting a nourishing model of being to the kids who need it
I can see the smart/thoughtful people on the conveyor belt ahead of me going mad in real time. and real players leave warnings for those of us who are also on the path https://t.co/RAEudnzIgq
"ignore the haters" is a more complex directive than people without haters realize because it's not always obvious in advance who's a hater and who's not deciding to ignore some subset of people requires introducing filters working with filters can change you
I often feel like there’s an intrinsic suicidality to the pursuit of fame. to pursue fame is to seek the annihilation of the self, knowingly or unknowingly. there are relatively healthy and unhealthy ways of doing this, but also our usual concepts of health don’t quite apply here
Gonna QT some stuff about why celebs go mad 1. hearing from people who are in pain https://t.co/pAIVm0EmGh
2. becoming a zoo animal (also probably not great for the zoo animals) https://t.co/Xfb9ZdxDgZ
ironically, one of the great tragedies of being a celebrity — which literally kills some of them and drives many of them mad, into escapist addictions, etc – is that you become basically a zoo animal, where everyone sees you but almost nobody Sees you https://t.co/dLo4S78PzP
3. getting anything you want https://t.co/CI7jzOG4kO
past a certain threshold of # of followers, you can pretty much make any sort of request and there’ll be someone out there who’s into it. this is a dark and dangerous magic to possess, and it’s prudent to witness how it’s part of the complex that drives celebrities mad
4. being chronically misunderstood, misrepresented, and having your sanity questioned https://t.co/4Mz6JmhEsA
Staying “sane” when you’re thought to be “insane” is harder than it sounds, especially if you’re a high-openness person who tends to consider what people tell you. When enough people question your sanity, you might go mad questioning it yourself, or overcompensate with resistance
5. pedestalization is dehumanizing https://t.co/WUwJuj6kna
Celebrities are lonely, and their fans contribute to that loneliness by dehumanizing them via pedestalization. The media further exacerbates this. We’ll tweet the same sad tweets when they die but we’re slow to address the underlying issues https://t.co/cUXmUSQN99
@visakanv this reminds me of a conversation i had with @pachabelcanon just earlier today about how many terminally online tpotters w a following seem like hollowed out shells. what advice would you have for lowbies to set/maintain boundaries between their public and private lives?
@sanjehorah @pachabelcanon Introspect; be honest with yourself about what you really want out of life, ask yourself what it’s for, what are you chasing, why, what does enough look like, what do you respect, why, how would you earn your own self-respect