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one difference between secure vulnerability and reckless vulnerability is if the other person responds poorly or without attunement, do you take it as a statement about their interest in and compatible with you they are, or how good you are as a person?
- from Heidi Priebe’s video on secure versus reckless vulnerability https://t.co/sBnjtq2cqX
basically, developing the discernment of the inner adult, to see to your inner child being safely and properly met, and having a Plan B if the other person doesn’t respond the way you’d want https://t.co/82tvAp83dQ
instead of leaving a baby in someone’s metaphorical conversational lap, and having the baby panic if the person doesn’t respond the way the baby wants, and who then tries to elicit the response from the person in all sorts of manipulative ways https://t.co/u3DBH5HScn
>relational intimacy is dependent on you 1) sharing things with your partner and 2) taking responsibility for handling yourself if they don't respond the way you want both are important. not expecting people to read your mind, nor expecting perfection in response https://t.co/Wy9D6Udg0W