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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

trying to living in someone else’s experience vs finding a strong connection to your own https://t.co/5OVoIyR7mt https://t.co/J3V2msK0T4

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

the trade offer of codependency is you give up access i give up access to to your inner private life my inner private life 🤝 we feel vaguely and in control of our connection with each other

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

codependency is just a weak connection to self. and one of the ways to strengthen that connection is to ask— https://t.co/LPvUAdNSnb

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

question for anxious attachment styles: “how would you live your life if you knew for a fact you would never find a romantic partner again?” what would you do? whatever the answer is, that’s a little bit of what you might call you

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

there is someone assigned to pay attention to all the bits of your circle when you’re a baby, it’s your parents & you, ideally, your parents help you pay enough attention to it with you, you’re able to take on the responsibility of paying attention to it https://t.co/F7LybDry6b

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

unintuitive fact to me, but everyone is assigned a person to think about them, and it’s them

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

otherwise, we can try to constantly recreate the experience of being real forever https://t.co/pyGkdU9DBC

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

if you suffered a formative lack of mirroring, you seek mirroring over and over again as a confirmation of your existence

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

this is ok https://t.co/gGfQVn8Npt

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

you will forever be trapped in your own experience, in your own mecha; and I in mine. yet we can interact hm

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

it is not a crime to stay with your experience of the world https://t.co/rJLGxmLtrd

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

@lolalucxy @christineist @visakanv at the end of the day, i think it’s being heard by ourselves that counts most of all anyway; other people just help bring us a warmer, more clear relationship with ourselves https://t.co/z5T2KDEiIz

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

that “just” is huge if true https://t.co/ILoiEu667S

Visakan Veerasamy@visakanv• over 2 years ago

@AskYatharth @lolalucxy @christineist the 'just' in "other people just help bring us a warmer more clear relationship with ourselves" is doing a lot of work here- literally god's work, literally the difference between being blessed vs being wretched, between heaven and hell

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

you get to have your own world https://t.co/jazj5XTq9L

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• about 3 years ago

not having resentment is something like “having your own world” for the resentment having your own world = being able to feel what you have, without worrying how it will impact other people for a bit

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yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

Replying to @AskYatharth

misc/related https://t.co/GuHmBSzVUI

yatharth in asheville@AskYatharth• over 4 years ago

No one will ever know my story. Not how I do. As I look around, I’m struck by how the only reference point is me, me, me. I can’t please anyone else. No one else gives as much of a shit or spends as much time in my brain. Can I take being not Known?

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