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children are often completely absorbed by their activity, and pay little attention to those around. if they detect a threat, they pay attention, scan their environment, and if there’s nothing, they go back to absorption. but some people never leave the vigilance state
hypervigilant babies look different. they’re too busy watching the adults in the room, in fear of their reactions to them actually touching a block to actually play, it’s heartbreaking. https://t.co/LWIXcMmEwx
i know a few people whose lives feel like this. one in particular very intimately 💔 https://t.co/smHvlK9alm
a lot of what childhood trauma will do is make you do this 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 thing always forecasting. what’s the next way this conversation could go? could they be disgusted? how do i stop that now? hypervigilance. high reactivity. planning things out
kids naturally want to explore. it’s kind of their thing. it’s being alive https://t.co/Ea00QWYN57 https://t.co/dr8BURcPnd https://t.co/cShfIXmXRV
what do you do with a little one stuck in vigilance? i think you help them scan the environment for safety https://t.co/smHvlK9alm
a lot of what childhood trauma will do is make you do this 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 thing always forecasting. what’s the next way this conversation could go? could they be disgusted? how do i stop that now? hypervigilance. high reactivity. planning things out
you notice how children naturally look at the reactions of adults in the room. you notice the inner adult, how connected that adult feels to what they’re feeling. you develop that grounding to self, because that grounding is the basis of what the little one finds safety
you acknowledge the fact that for a while, nobody was home https://t.co/6s9c4ytuza