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quoted tweet makes me think i’d have loved to phrase the question like this what about anxious attachment draws it to avoidant attachment? somehow the answer to THAT feels much more obvious https://t.co/Tp8VcYaRAl
anxious attachment be like https://t.co/z1f42MtLPW
me, realising i can answer this question myself https://t.co/cz8BLk0h9j
@AskYatharth @nowtheo pointed this thread to me - i like it! https://t.co/pawzLCHoPz
@AskYatharth They’re not, particularly. But securely attached people leave the dating scene quickly and tend to stay out longer, because they’re secure. Two avoidants never wind up in a relationship generally because where does the binding energy come from?
@AskYatharth Therefore after as adults newly formed relationships will be heavily biased towards anxious and avoidants, and always contain at least one anxious member. So you get a lot of anxious / avoidant pairings because it works…temporarily…and then it explodes.