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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• over 2 years ago

years ago my friend told me about Ring Theory, it helped me to be better at taking care of people in crisis I've never heard it discussed since then, so I'll write up my understanding here bc I think it could be useful

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• over 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

person X is in distress. they're in the inner circle, surrounded by concentric rings of people. first ring could be their spouse. second ring, siblings or close friends. third ring, acquaintances, friends of friends etc

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• over 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

visualising these rings gives you a model for how to metabolise distress & other intense feelings the person in Crisis gets to thrash about and vent and dump their bad feelings out to the first ring. no holds barred, anything goes

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• over 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

the job of the first ring is to be superhumanly understanding, comforting, forgiving, patient, kind to the person in distress but they're accumulating resentment / bad feelings in the process, which they can export to the second ring

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• over 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

bad feelings is exported outwards in expanding rings of diminishing intensity comfort is imported in to the smaller rings in increasing intensity

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• over 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

if there are enough connections in the social fabric and rough alignment on this import/export model, very intense feelings can be metabolised by the network, like dropping a bowling ball on a trampoline

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• over 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

if there are not enough social connections, or not enough alignment about what to do with bad feelings, the intense distress can overwhelm the network capacity: extreme distress ruptures relatedness

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• over 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

I looked it up, Ring Theory was coined by psychologist Dr. Susan Silk: https://t.co/jy99fvRZV4 "Each person in the diagram is advised to 'comfort in, dump out', which Silk calls the 'kvetching order'." 😂😂😂 https://t.co/nZoN4sWds1

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• over 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

by the way I think this is a useful way to think about accelerating political polarisation problem: extreme distress ruptures relatedness solution: more connections + more skills of mutual care

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Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels• about 2 years ago

Replying to @RichDecibels

@exGenesis @_brentbaum @dismaien @LombardoNati ring theory!

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