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the self is not a thing — it is a connection between felt sensation and memories and behaviour sometimes two things feel incompatible and it rips your self in two https://t.co/f769lQ7oZK
Ambiguity has a destabilizing effect… Very few have the courage/strength to hold the tension between opposites till a completely new standpoint emerges… This is because in acknowledging contradictory truths, one has to create an inner equilibrium to keep from being torn in two. https://t.co/UDDYxvl8uF
it’s possibility creation. you show the system what’s possible https://t.co/MGLaNm9AxU
some of us had that. some of us experienced a relationship with caregivers where we could have any emotion in the world and feel inherently safe and supported for others, it is more of an acquired birthright https://t.co/u42YqEre44
you discover this possibility by going into the space of possibilities and standing in it https://t.co/KJSiJUHnpG
you just sort of wake up on day and decide you are an adult the thing that authorises you is not a *person* but a reality you can dare to inhabit and if you manage to inhabit, it’s real but beware: people have very strong reality-distortion fields
some days you are going to get knocked down. but some of them might be around nice enough people and have enough resources to stand in the waves of feeling just yet and experience for the first time a self that is whole in a slightly new way