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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago

shame has a function. it has many functions. one of them is to STOP people from doing something. you STOP the kid from poking her sister’s eyes out. you STOP the kid from running out on the road, or doing sth inappropriate but in healthy shame, shame is always followed by repair

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago
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shame is scary. it’s literally an emergency brake on your system. your nervous system needs some repair

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago
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ideally, when shame happens, the parent comes over and helps soothe and reassure the child, so the /dynamic safety of existing in the world/ is maintained, while making clear the boundary

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago
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relevant video: Peter Levine on Shame - https://t.co/Tmql6AWGRu

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago
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unhealthy shame is when for some reason, the shame sticks around. it’s internalised. it becomes about “oneself.” sinks deep into the psyche it doesn’t belong there.

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago
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shame is a state you enter and leave like any else. shame is how you discover the boundaries of the world (as set by other humans), but you return to your health, supported, exploring places healthy systems still want to explore https://t.co/dr8BURchxF

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

a lot of attachment and trauma stuff is rehabilitation of the exploratory system

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago
Replying to @AskYatharth

shame isn’t a problem; getting stuck there is it’s just a wave of emotion like any other https://t.co/qQosnJvLYW

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• almost 3 years ago

and at some point, maybe, when i trust like it, i can let them move me thrust back 6 metered. picked up and dropped off at a different spot. that’s what catching an emotional wave feels like

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yatharth ༺༒༻@AskYatharth• over 2 years ago
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cribbed from @jessicamalonso (cribbed from Irene Lyon (cribbed from Peter Levine)) Jessica has a great thread here https://t.co/CDZvqtavp4

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12/27/2022