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it’s the same sort of realisation as realising confidence is about safety (not: ignoring safety) (not: living in survival mode all the time) but knowing your energetic yeses and nos to create a home that you feel extraordinarily safe in and can leave at times to go outdoors
that’s what it means to have an active exploratory system. you have places and people that feel like homes, and you feel empowered to explore outside not constantly scanning the environment in threat detection mode https://t.co/dr8BURcPnd
relevant video: Two types of orienting - Irene Lyon - https://t.co/0kUOEpBkxQ
oh, and on confidence being about safety: https://t.co/TBWhqhuH4h
before understanding this, confidence felt like a trick something you did to convince people. and it worked. with investors, acquaintances, etc. but human relationships are a whole different thing. what i didn’t realise is confidence was actually about safety https://t.co/G3sO8VrxCo
outdoor timeline and indoor timeline https://t.co/XRzty1T8se
do the people, places, and digital places you consider home feel like this? then can! https://t.co/7Gtseb6amJ
related: "The muting is like a band-aid that allows healing. The healed body can tolerate the irritation." https://t.co/fqhsx18NEj https://t.co/Gv66CLHgAU
