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in a codependent system, the addiction and survival compensation mechanisms keep a death grip on love https://t.co/YM3BkGSLzN
the erotic life force is so buried, because it feel so dangerous, so chaotic to this state of affairs in this state, there is simply addiction (dependence on the system) and compensation (how you keep maintaining an external and internal state to get it)
codependency dynamics are born from a starvation of love, that comes to see other people as exclusive sources for love, and try to strongly control outcomes so they can never leave this is deeply violating of other’s integrity and right to control themselves
codependency is about control, in the sense that it tries to “control” (drive an outcome) that depends on an external person doing something, with no respect for their integrity or choice rather then a desire to feel nourished oneself, and allowing other people to choose that
instead love can feel anchors. where different people anchor you and ground you at any given time, but you don’t hold on to any one of them with that grip https://t.co/VjGbYWoqH6
