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How can I find (spaces with) people who are comfortable with receiving and accepting the full granular range of people's raw emotions, but without the airy breathy aesthetic that makes me go kneejerk "ew, hippies, weird, take me back to the normies please"?
@not_a_hot_girl Circling is the one. I heard Authentic Relating is similar, so you could search for those! Outside of those two, I've generally heard of "emotional/relational dojo" events but none i could point to specifically
@not_a_hot_girl @alex_here_now defs tricky. no leads on communities, but i'm coming to think it's more and more important for people to know how to hold themselves in physical confrontations in order to really be accepting of raw emotions
@not_a_hot_girl @alex_here_now like... it might not be grounded in this, but there's something about what comes from knowing everyone is agentic and willing and capable of dealing with potential actual threats to themselves and others in a non-panicing non-jerky way
@not_a_hot_girl @alex_here_now @forshaper I'd try circling cuz trying things always seems useful, though if you wanted some anecdotes on limits of (at least some groups) circling, ask @apostazk https://t.co/DnbD3s8uKG
@not_a_hot_girl would it be interesting to meet with the airy breathy people but 1. resolutely stick to your preferred way of communicating and see if they budge, or 2. use it as exposure therapy to work thru your aversion to sharing with "not the right kind of person"
@not_a_hot_girl One characteristic of hippie spaces is that bouba energy is okay but kiki energy isn't. Punk spaces might be a polar opposite, but what I'm usually looking for is a space that accepts both. https://t.co/7ymcSeup9R
@not_a_hot_girl oh huh! I've been wondering about that aspect of the somatic sessions I'm holding with James - like, they feel perhaps too "normal person" and less ceremonial than I'm used to, for such strong emotions but also perhaps that can be a benefit? https://t.co/jQe1TT9Byx
It's not stonefaced space-holding, or overly solemn in here. If anything I wanna get popcorn and watch with rapt attention, & later vibe out about how gnarly those shadow depths were, bro, congrats for facing them! I do want to keep appropriate reverence too, tho.Bookmarking 💜
@not_a_hot_girl tbh a simple sense that "maybe it's impossible to be normie & also skillfully hold the full depth of something as deep as, say, a death wish" I hadn't seen it done. & yes in my prior internal story -playful is normie-coded, stonefaced is ceremony-coded. thx for nuancing this !