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i’ve noticed there’s an aggressive way in which rats like to socialise it comes out in questions like “What’s your most controversial opinion?” https://t.co/hfjocOYIBA https://t.co/mqkAXktJZP
normies, the kind happy to make small talk, are looking for low-intensity bonding small talk, etc are fine rats need high-intensity, almost trauma bonding. hence the vulnerability searching, hence the almost predilection to be shocking
i can recognise it, bc i was it i can’t say why, i haven’t looked at it thoroughly enough. but it feels prompted by a baseline fear intensely, almost aggressively bonding this way, with someone else also tightly wound this way, feels kind of relieving
the more chill i became, the more… i didn’t mind small talk the more im not like intensely trying to prove myself all the time im actually just kind of existing and i feel “normal”? @pragueyerrr mb u have better words for this https://t.co/qgtfw2CxKh
more on this feeling: it’s like the safety of being around someone else who is codependent or someone else who is anxious they’re gonna do the thing with you https://t.co/yjJVPX0zjC
whereas when i was hanging out with people like this: then it would be a bit scary. i wouldn’t know how to “get inside” their minds. we couldn’t do the “aggressively hand each other models of our brain and bond” thing https://t.co/z58lb5Hb4o
tfw healing so much trauma you basically become a normie https://t.co/vmz2XBqZFz
this was me! https://t.co/we6FVRxXqB